I've just completed my confinement period.
I always thought that confinement period would be a time you'd be pampered to death and true enough, it is supposed to be like that but unfortunately, for me..it wasnt exactly like what I imagined it to be.
I've always wanted a true malay traditional type of confinement. I wanted to do the whole lot..jamu, bengkung and all that. I found an indon confinement lady though a blog. This person had use this makcik's during her confinement and raved about it. Since I didnt know where else to find a malay/indon confinement lady, I told my mum to arrange and call this makcik and decided to take a risk with this makcik.
This makcik charges RM100 per day according to her..but when my mum 'bargained', she said RM75 at first. Next few weeks when my mum called again to make booking and to pay deposit, she said RM80. Finally when she arrived, it was RM90. That itself should be an alarm that she's not honest.
Talk was all good. First week, I was really impressed. She did all...cook for me, massage me every morning, wrapped me twice a day after shower, prepared bath for me etc. She also took care of the baby when she gets up at night. However, since I breastfeed my baby, no matter what..I still have to get up at night for feeds.
Come second week, she started slacking. The food she cooked for me was more what she wants to eat rather than what's good for me. She made me fried stuff.., which I was told by people, that during confinement u shouldnt eat fried stuff. She made me spicy food too. I didnt have any food rich in garlic and ginger..when I thought that was supposed to be the food during confinement. I didnt complain cuz the food was good...but then, still, I should have what is good for me.
Third week was worst. She didnt want to get up at night anymore. She doesnt cook much cuz she prefers when we buy food outside. She switches off the fan when she's warm and changed the channels on the tv to what she wants to watch. I got pissed.
We told her bye bye when she told us she has to leave to go to her next client.
So pls, when choosing a confinement lady....pick properly.
For now, I feel that it is taking me longer to recover cuz I was not looked after properly. I was doing housework like laundry etc during my confinement cuz I couldnt stand it not being done. I have no maid that's why. Now my body aches......
